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Ted Dorff's avatar

I’m shocked. Of course I started to wonder as I read this piece, but i didn’t want to entertain the possibility. The one time I met her at the poetry reading, you both seemed so happy.

You’ve survived and thrived through so much. Your hair has grown back before. All the best. 🫂

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Eric Trules's avatar

I had cancer in 1989, Ted. Lost all my hair. Or most of it fell out until I shaved my head bald. Even back then, thinking of myself as Samson, I collected all the shaved and fallen off hair - in an urn. Which I’ve kept until this day. Fortunately, hair grows back.🤠❤️

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Eric Trules's avatar

We WERE happy, and then we WEREN’T😩

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fiona's avatar

Sounds difficult, complex and profound..hope you can find a way to figure the good you both shared and the best for your son.

...to welcome with affection what is sent by fate...

I am late to the Marcus Aurelius party, but ..playful stoicism🤔

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Eric Trules's avatar

I always love your words, Fiona. Each & every one. Thank you❤️

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Elsbeth Collins's avatar

Hey, Trules, so sorry to hear this but I love the image of the Phoenix- have called on that image many times since I lost Jimmie. I know you will power forward and make great stories wherever you land. Sending love❤️

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Eric Trules's avatar

Thanks fr your faith & confidence in my phoenix-like abilities, Els!!!

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Tom Price's avatar

Eric….i feel sad for you. I’m still with same Filipino woman you’ve met….and the marriage couldn’t be deader (ya, I said that). Bravo on your courage to move on.

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Eric Trules's avatar

Thanks, Tom. Better still alive than dead. Hope this finds you well other than your marriage.

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Tom Price's avatar

I know you have a network of good friends and that we haven’t been in touch para muchos anos…..but if you like to talk I’d really enjoy that. My phone is (310) 709-8153. If not, I understand. Perhaps I’m looking for some inspiration from you

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Arthur  Hoyle's avatar

A real shocker, Eric. Sorry to get this news.

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Eric Trules's avatar

I agree, Arthur. Sorry for not telling you directly. It was just too hard.

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Shaista Ali's avatar

I’m saddened to hear. The pillar crumbling is a path to something… more experience, more wisdom, more joy. There’s always more joy.

I love how you write about Surya, perhaps that is not changing. I hope there’s some release in sharing with your readers. You don’t have to carry it alone.

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Eric Trules's avatar

Thanks for your comment, Shaista.. I just felt that going forward, writing autobiographical posts, I had to get past the block of not writing about it. And so I’ve taken the first step.👍

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Shaista Ali's avatar

All one can do. One step, then another.

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Rick Pagano's avatar

Your best post to date….talk soon

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Eric Trules's avatar

That’s high praise coming for such a calamitous post.😎

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Rick Pagano's avatar

The upside of heartbreak is that you can sing the blues.

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Eric Trules's avatar

Never had a problem with that! Except for my voice.

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Kathysolomon's avatar

Im so sorry. Wishing you all the best

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Eric Trules's avatar

Thanks, Kathy!

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Janet Gerson's avatar

Oh, Eric! I'm so sorry! Let's talk. I was afraid for you.

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Eric Trules's avatar

You had a sense that it was coming,, Janet? Thanks for your empathy. But the fact is, it was hard enough to write this post, and I really don’t want to talk about it much at all with my friends. Time to move forward… ❤️

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